Forget Looks and Personality.

The question is for me are they homophobic and/or a misogynist? As everyone knows my absolute dealbreaker is a guy who`s homophobic but sometimes I come across a guy who hates gays and also doesn`t like women.And they`re on all my dating sites as it`s usually a generation thing, so, lucky old me.
A misogynist usually has no women friends and doesn`t take women seriously.I can only imagine that it goes back to how they saw the way their father treated their own mother.Guys my age probably grew up with seeing how little respect was given to the woman who kept the household going as no one had a mum who actually had a career.She might have had a part time job to help with the finances but only if it didn`t interfere with cleaning,cooking and looking after the main man.Women had more children then so that also meant they wouldn`t be doing much outside the home.Not earning their own money meant being dependant on the main breadwinner so even if they were in a bad marriage they would have felt that they couldn`t go anywhere,so it`s not really surprising that men my age have little respect for women.
Having said that we are now in 2014 and it`s a whole lot better now for women who want it all.Unless you`re dating older men that is.
A guy actually cancelled on a date we had later today when after asking who did I live with, I told him.I could of course have just said I have a male housemate but this is my litmus paper test.A man`s response to being told my male housemate is gay will tell me a lot about him before I`ve met him.I might have to learn some first aid in what to do if someone has a stroke because one of these days I`ll be on a date when someone asks me who I share with.If he`s being particularly obnoxious about it I might just throw in the fact that I have a gorgeous gay son as well.That could really tip them over the edge…
So unfortunately,homophobia and misogyny are still alive and well and living in the small minded, ignorant,vile older bastards that keep popping up now and again.
Meanwhile, back at Paradise Passage, hubby’s knackered after going to watch Kylie the other night,Too much dancing,vodka,and snogging DJ’s apparently…and why not?

And my deal-breaker is……..

To say I`ve had my eyes opened while I`ve been on POF is a bit of an understatement but now and again I still get a bit of a shock at how ignorant some guys still are.I was chatting with someone last night (well two actually I was on a roll) and we were getting on really well. A bit of banter, couple of compliments thrown in,until we got to the part where I was asked do I live alone or do any of my kids live with me.Because “G” seemed like a nice guy I told him that I lived with my gorgeous gay friend “R”,huge mistake.His reply was unbelievable, “What are you doing living with a poofter?” I felt sick. “Sorry? What do you mean?” “Seriously, what are you doing living with a poofter? Their sort need a good kicking.” Oh my god I couldn`t breathe.”You`re showing your age there G, it`s a good job they haven`t brought back hanging.” “Hanging`s too good for `em it`s disgusting”. My last reply before he was blocked was “You ignorant,nasty homophobic twat…bet you`ve had some good holidays in Thailand with those ladyboys.”
The fact that he`d used such an old-fashioned word said it all. I remember growing up in a time when no-one knew anyone who was openly gay as it had only been a few years before when it was against the law so if your Auntie`s second cousin twice removed actually knew someone who was gay you can bet your life that that person was in prison.Let`s fast-forward to the 21st century shall we and what`s the betting that all these old horrible men have at least one family member who is gay.,what do they do? Do they ignore them at family parties and say it`s just a phase?Because they can`t be openly abusive to them can they, in this day and age?I hope they sit there seething, muttering under there breath but unfortunately for me this isn`t the first time I`ve had that reaction from someone.
One guy I was chatting to asked me who I lived with and so I told him. No reply so I messaged him. “You`ve gone a bit quiet?” After a while I got a response “Not sure how I feel about that”. Oh this one was going to be interesting. ” Not sure I know what you mean?” “Well I suppose it`s ok. I have a friend who has a friend who knows someone who is gay.” I couldn`t believe it. “Are you saying you don`t actually know anyone yourself?” “No.” Now guys like him seem to think if they walk in that R will pounce on him, all I can say to that is if you`ve got tattoos, wearing a wife-beater vest, tracky bottoms, front tooth missing then yes you take your chances.But I`m sure you`ll be quite safe because believe it or not gay guys are not the dirty desperate disease-ridden low-life that you seem to think they are. On the other hand maybe some of these dinosaurs think that R and I have something going on? Let me clarify we are NOT Marcus and Maria off Corrie.I like to think we`re more like Will and Grace…..And as for the guys who like to go to Thailand for the exotic nightlife, (interestingly enough usually guys my age) they all emphatically say that they are NOT GAY. I beg to differ because if that was the case you would be with a Thai GIRL. The fact they are ladyboys and are perceived as women with all the affectations of women is like some sort of smoke and mirrors trick but the hard fact is they still have that vital piece of equipment between their legs which is the attraction for you men.But you hide behind ladyboys hoping the world sees your girlfriend as female and I`ll bet you`re not exactly encouraging her to have the full gender re-assignement are you? Didn`t think so…….let`s hope hubby`s got me a wristband for Manchester Pride.