What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger.

A few days ago I was asked a question during a conversation, did I see myself as a strong northern woman? Without hesitation I replied that yes, I did. It doesn’t matter where you’re from/live if you’ve gone through life where you’ve had to deal with things that most people will never have to deal with, and then come out the other side still standing, then yes,that makes you a strong person.
All of us are going to have to deal with something unpleasant at some point in our lives. Most of us are going to have that friend who in the end stabs us in the back, the guy/girl you fancy getting off with your mate (who by the way KNEW you liked them) being overlooked for promotion in favour of the newbie who’s only been there 5 minutes and maybe the house you’ve put an offer on falls through at the last minute..Hurtful and annoying yes, but if that’s all you’ll ever have to deal with count yourself lucky.
Most of us at some point will  find a career, a partner to settle down with, buy a house and life takes a massive turn when you decide to have children. Imagine 10/15 years down the line when you’re established with your career, mortgage, married life and you find out your partner’s cheating. Or you or your partner have been made redundant, but just enough money is coming in to make it impossible to claim benefits but eventually the house is going to get repossessed. Maybe you’re dealing with a close relative with a life threatening illness. And just  when you think you’ve weathered all the storms you get to middle age and the money you have set aside for retirement vanishes due to the collapse of the company that’s supposedly looking after it. Unfortunately life throws some people a curve ball and while some people can go through life in a straight line, no bumps or forks in the road, no diversions just a straight line from A to B it’s not the same for everyone.
Some of us won’t be anywhere near this road. We’ll be on the one that has had a bridge that has collapsed just as we get there, the one with roadworks but with no easy pedestrian access, the one with a great big tree that has fallen across it. How we deal with this will determine character. Dealing with it will make us stronger, but more wary, more cynical and less likely to believe everything we are told. It’s not always about making the wrong choices, some things happen that we could never have seen coming in a million years but hopefully we’ll all have family and  friends that we can lean on during difficult times.
Like the saying goes “I wish I knew then what I know now”.
Oh how true that is.